Time Will Heal Our Wounds

Time Will Heal Our Wounds

Trouble passes. What has caused you to burst into tears today will soon be forgotten; you may remember that you cried but it is unlikely that you will remember what you cried about! As we grow up and go through life, if we remember this we shall often be surprised to find how we lie awake at night brooding something that has happened to upset us during the day, or how we nurse resentment against someone and keep on letting the same thoughts run through our minds about how we are going to have our own back against the person who has harmed us. We may fall into a rage over something and later wonder what it was we were so angry about. And being surprised, we can realise what a waste of time and energy it has all been, and how we have

deliberately gone on being unhappy when we could have stopped it and started to think about something else.

   Whatever our troubles, however grievous they may appear, time will heal our wounds. But surely there must be something we can do to prevent ourselves from being hurt in the first place. Why should we allow people and troubles to drain our energy and make us unhappy? The answer is, of course, that they do not, it is we who make ourselves unhappy.

   You may have had some trouble in your office or the place where you work but you should not bring or extend such troubles to your home and create a bad atmosphere. You should realise that there is a cure or an end to those problems and troubles which are to be

found by achieving freedom from our selfish desires and by eradicating all forms of confusion and ignorance.

   Whenever we fail to find a solution to any problem, we are inclined to find a scapegoat, someone against whom we can vent our grievance. We are not prepared to admit our own shortcomings. We feel it is easier to put the blame on others and to nurture a grievance against someone. In fact, some of us take pleasure in so doing. This is a completely wrong attitude. We must not show resentment or to be angry towards others. We should do our utmost, painstakingly and calmly, to resolve our own problems. We must be prepared to face up to any difficulties that we may encounter.

Healthy Atmosphere

However bitter may be the joke and remarks directed at you by others, like a wise man you too must answer them with another joke without an unhealthy atmosphere.

   When you play a game don’t show your temper if you are losing the game; by doing so you not only spoil the pleasure of others but you will in the end completely lose the game.

   You cannot correct each and every person in this world in order to achieve peace in the same way as you cannot remove the world of stones and thorns to walk smoothly. One who wants to walk on smooth ground must wear a pair of shoes. Likewise, one who

wants to have a peace of mind, must know how to guard his own senses.

   There are various ways to correct a person if he is wrong. By criticising, blaming and shouting at him publicly, you cannot correct him; you must know how to correct him without humiliating him. Many people make more enemies by criticizing others. If you can tell him kindly, with the intention of correcting him, he will certainly listen to you and some day he will thank you

for your guidance and kindness.

   Whenever you express your views regarding certain matters, always try to use words which would not hurt the feelings of others. There are various ways of expressing you views either gently or politely or even diplomatically.

   You should not lose your temper when your faults are pointed out. You may think that by showing temper and shouting at others you can suppress or overcome your shortcomings. It is a false and wrong attitude to adopt.

   You should not reveal the personal secrets of a former friend which were confided to you even though you are not in good terms with him. If you do so, others will look down upon you and will never accept you as a sincere man.

Accept Criticism

“Sweetness is sickness, bitterness is medicine”

Praise is like a sweet, excess of which cause sickness. And criticism is like a bitter pill or a painful injection which cures sickness. We must have the courage to welcome criticism and not to be afraid of it.

“The ugliness we see in others

Is a reflection of our own nature”

A man’s individual life, circumstances and world are a reflection of his own thoughts and beliefs. All men are mirrors reflecting according to their own surface. All men, looking at the world of men and things, are looking into a mirror which gives back their own reflection.